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PBIS at Home

Creating a Positive, Consistent Home Environment

Define the behavior routines for your home

What daily routines need improvement in your home? Are you struggling getting everyone ready for school on time? Is homework a nightmare? Do you have clearly defined expectations for use of electronics? Step number one in creating a positive home environment is to have well defined routines with 3-5 clearly defined behavior expectations for each of the routines. 

Teach the behavior expectations 

The first step in teaching behavior expectations is to model the behavior. Give your children clear directions, one step at a time. Show children what the expectation looks like and what it does not look like and then give positive feedback.

Practice the behavior

Practicing the behavior will improve confidence. Reteach and review the behavior expectation often.

Reinforce success

Make sure you are acknowledging and reinforcing the behaviors immediately and often, especially at first. Recognize effort and be specific about the behavior. Try to stay away from "Good Boy!" or "Good Job." Instead say specifically what the behavior was that you liked. "You did a great job cleaning your room and putting everything in its place!" 

Interrupt and redirect unwanted behavior

If your child forgets to use the positive behavior that you are expecting, you should interrupt the undesired behavior and remind them to return to the expected behavior. If you are having to redirect a lot, then you need to review, practice and increase your reinforcement for a while. 

Respond to behavior

If behavior errors continue even after redirecting and re-teaching, you will need to have consistent consequences that are age appropriate. Make sure your child knows that it is the behavior you disapprove of and avoid saying things like, "You are a bad girl!" Appropriate alternatives to spanking.

Keys to Success

If you want a behavior teach it.

If you like the behavior recognize it.

Teach the new behavior rather than reacting to the unwanted behavior.

Patience is important when teaching a new behavior.

Talk about Respect, responsibility and kindness at home

Respect

Teach your child to say “Please” and “Thank you.” Make sure every member of the family speaks kindly to each other. Teach your children how to be respectful by modeling being respectful to them. Listen when they are speaking, show them empathy so they know you've HEARD them. Teach your children respectful ways to express their emotions. 

Responsibility

Does each member of the family have age appropriate jobs? The best way to teach children to be responsible is to hold them accountable for chores at home. For some great ideas for appropriate chores at each age, click here. 

Kindness

Is it better to be Right or Kind? 

Be a good role model and try to be nice to people you interact with throughout the day. Be the behavior you want to see in your child

When you encourage kindness in your child, they will feel better not only about the world they live in but also about themself.